For some time now, I’ve noticed an
increasing polarisation of stances amongst those who have anything to do with
autism. I’ve started to call these stances ‘Autism-Negative’ and
‘Autism-Positive’. There isn’t really a ‘Autism-Neutral’ stance, as the default
still tends to be the negative one, alas, given the prevailing public
understanding of autism. Those who disagree with it are almost required to be
positive in order to counteract that.
It’s usually pretty easy to grasp which
people are which of course, but to make it crystal-clear, I’ve listed the prime
characteristics of each stance.
If you’re Autism-Negative, it’s likely you
will –
1) View autism predominantly via the
‘medical model’ of disability, which sees the autistic person as ‘unwell’,
‘abnormal’, or simply ‘bad’.
2) Talk of autism as a ‘disease’,
‘epidemic’, ‘brain damage’ or a ‘thief’ of the ‘real’ child, and/or describe
autistics as ‘afflicted’ or ‘suffering from’ autism/Asperger's.
3) Insist on person-first language when
describing autistics, ie ‘person with autism’, implying the autism is somehow
separate (and hence can be detached and gotten rid of).
4) Conduct or uncritically support
‘research’ that frames autistics as ‘abnormal’ whenever they differ from
neurotypicals.
5) Misinterpret autistic behaviours, eg
lack of eye contact, because you never consult the actual autistics, even those
adults who are able to speak.
6) Devote much time, energy and money to
either searching for a cure, or supporting and/or working for organisations
that have this objective in mind.
7) Insist that all autistic children should
be subjected to long hours of ‘therapy’, designed to ‘cure’ them or at least
render them ‘indistinguishable from their peers’.
8) View this goal of ‘indistinguishability’
as the ONLY worthwhile goal for autistics. Suppress stimming and any other
obvious autistic behaviour, and punish meltdowns.
9) Tell autistics or their parents that if
only they/their child was ‘normal’, they wouldn’t be bullied. And hence give
the bullies a free pass.
10) Be hostile to autism advocates, telling
them they are ‘too high-functioning’ to understand the ‘real’ autistics, who
‘need these treatments’.
11) Complain about how ‘stressed’ you are,
how autism has ‘ruined’ your life, and similar pity parties, if you’re the
parent of an autistic child, or write about autism like this, if you’re a
journalist.
12) In the most extreme cases, support
‘cures’ such as MMS and similar, even when they’ve been judged illegal and
abusive.
On the other hand, if you’re Autism-Positive,
it’s likely you will –
1) View autism via the ‘social model’ of
disability, which sees autism as simply a different neurology, and society and
its attitudes as the problem.
2) Talk of autism using positive words, eg
‘neurodivergent’, ‘neurodiverse’, etc.
3) Use identity-first language when
describing autistics/yourself, ie ‘autistic person’, because you view the
autism as intrinsic to the individual, affecting their/your perception of the
world, self-expression, thinking and emotional processes, etc.
4) Severely critique all research that
frames autism negatively, and possibly conduct your own to find out the truth,
even if it’s just an informal poll on social media.
5) Investigate the true motivations behind
autistic behaviours by asking autistics. Or at least not assume the reason is a
negative one.
6) Insist that autism doesn’t need curing,
but rather acceptance and understanding.
7) Allow autistic children to BE children
and to be autistic, to play and to develop in their own way, using non-invasive
therapies only when absolutely necessary.
8) Acknowledge the problems, but also talk
of the strengths and advantages of being autistic. Celebrate and be proud of
being autistic. Stim happily and frequently, and/or allow your child to do so.
9) Promote inclusiveness of autistics in
the classroom, workplace, etc, and protest the bullies, even punishing them if
you have the power.
10) Either support the autism advocates, or
be one yourself, and letting people know that ‘functioning levels’ are not a
useful way of measuring autistic capabilities.
11) Either never experience high stress
because of your autistic child, or have learnt ways to understand and deal with
disagreeable behaviours, often by getting support from other autism-positive
parents. And probably never appear in the media, because you’re not
‘newsworthy’. Or get reported as ‘different’ or ‘unusual’ if you do.
12) Be horrified by, and adamantly against,
all harsh, abusive ‘cures’, even perhaps campaigning against them, signing
online petitions, emailing your MP or representative, etc.
There are probably other items that could
go on the list, but you get the picture. Note that you don’t have to tick every
item to fit in one category or another, eg some Autism-Positive autistics would
perhaps still prefer to say they ‘have autism’, rather than that they ‘are
autistic’. It’s often a matter of personal choice.
Plus, there are bigger issues than what
terminology you use. The attitudes and practises of the Autism-Negative crowd
predominate, and they are hurting us badly. Very badly. I don’t think there is
an autistic on the planet (unless they are very young and protected, or live on
some remote island without access to the outside world!) who hasn’t met an
Autism-Negative person, or experienced some of the ‘treatment’ they dish out.
It has to stop. It’s time to change the public perception of autism, from
Autism-Negative to Autism-Positive.
So which one are YOU?
Happy to be in the positive-autism camp :) love this blog post
ReplyDeleteHappy to be in the positive camp
ReplyDeletePositive Camper.
ReplyDeleteHappy Camper.
ReplyDeletePositive is the only way I go.
ReplyDeleteI am aspie positive
ReplyDelete100% positive!
ReplyDeleteWell maybe not 100% but a happy dad of an autistic son who amazes me daily, not high or low function... just him..
I know quite a few in-betweeners! For myself, would put myself 90% in the positive camp, but welcome any therapies and strategies that are respectful and compassionate and that help our autistic loved ones feel better in the world they have to live in, and help those who care for them feel less exhausted and alone.
ReplyDeleteWell put Annelies.
ReplyDeleteThank you. I’m certainly trying but it’s so great to hear from different prospectives because I’ve obviously been negative through ignorance.
ReplyDeleteI think a lot of parents are, Lucy. That's part of why I write my blog, to counter the negative stuff that too many parents get fed by the system, when their child is first diagnosed. ☺
DeleteYou want to know what it feels like on this planet being an aspie? It feels like you live your life feeling like you are from another planet. Sometimes it even makes me wonder.
ReplyDeleteProud positive aspie, no therapies and not diagnosed until 40.
Like Annelies, I love my son as he is and I encourage and support him in his interests. I support his request for therapy to improve mood. He has a great therapist who also supports his interests. That said, we also encourage support group and social skills group to gradually develop additional skills that may benefit him in a world that doesn't understand autism and to help him meet his goal of decreasing loneliness.
ReplyDeleteHappy camp....Definitely ��‼️
ReplyDeleteHappy...Absolutely ‼️
ReplyDeleteI was diagnosed with Asperger's at the age of 23, I'll be 43 this April, and contrary to popular opinion, as posted by morons online, I am NOT retarded,
ReplyDeletePlease answer this; is not the Proper Noun form for Autistic; Autist. Such as I am an Autist not I am Autistic.
ReplyDeleteI have,from day 1, viewed autism as a gift. A very special gift. I tell my son that he is not disabled but rather "different abled". I have learned a lot of patience and positive solutions for everything. Though lately, because I have neglected myself, I could use some ideas of how I can get time to keep myself in good health when I have raised him most of his life, alone. His father, undiagnosed adult with autism, was killed by his own father who had never excepted him. It was and is so very sad but we can't stay there. But I wonder if there is a safe and nurturing place where 18 year old graduated high school. So he's the s doing well. He's verbal although we have occasions that we forget how to read each other and it escalates. Being an older single mom. And my son is 18, doesn't want to leave home. I don't mind if he lives at home but there in lies the problem. He needs help helping transition from teenager to young adult. I'm willing to even try moving
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